What can the dead do? If a person died in front of you, would you attempt CPR or take some other action in order to help revive them, would you shout at them to wake up before it is too late, or would you just ignore them and walk on by? Spiritually speaking, Christians come in contact with the dead every day. What is our response? I hope we remember that we were once spiritually dead and now have the responsibility to share life.
Ephesians 2:1&4-5 And you were dead in the trespasses and sins... But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved—
While clowns like Phelps (oh, was that less than loving? Jesus called the religious hypocrites worse) give a black eye to the Christian community, there are myriads of believers quietly working in outreach ministries demonstrating the love of Jesus. This is who we need to be. This is how we overcome the stereotype of bigot and hater. This is the Great Commission.
Pastor Bob Beeman is an example of a guy who gets it right:
Loving one another is behavior oriented, not words or platitudes. The guy who tells his wife "I love you" and then smacks her around does not love his wife, he loves himself. True love may never say the words "I love you" but is demonstrated in actions of good. Those who are lost in sin need to know God loves them. We must endeavor to love by considering others better than ourselves. Our behavior toward those dead in sin may be the difference between them finding salvation or remaining alienated from God. Find someone to bless today and tell them you love them by your actions not your words!